Monday, September 29, 2008
How to Move On in 4 Easy Steps
Thanks Edward Dullard!!
Let's face it. We've all had something bad happen to us. Whether it's a bad break up, the death of a loved one, or something between.
But we all need to get back on our feet, wave the crash remains goodbye, and stumble our way into bigger and better things in life. IT'S NOT THE END OF THE WORLD. It seems like it is at the time. Trust me, I've been there.
But how can you pick our self up from this seemingly life destroying bump and move on?
First, admit that it happened. You can't fix a leaky tap if it isn't leaking, right? Denying that the event happening is just going to make it even worse when it come to the crunch time.
Second, allow yourself to grieve. There is absolutely no law anywhere that states you cannot cry. Allow yourself time to cry, scream, laugh, jump around the house, run, or whatever else is it when you grieve. Allow yourself to be angry.
I find that setting a time frame to grieve helps. Don't let yourself be upset for more than, say, a week. Let all your emotions out. Drain the tank. Then move onto
step three. Acknowledge that it was just another test in your life, that it has made you stronger as a person. Learn from it. Don't look back on it as a bad thing, look back at it as a lesson. I like to think 'Well, look at that, life. You just rolled this huge-arse bowling ball down my life-lane, hoping to get a strike. Well, sucked in. I'm stronger then you think.' Pick up that boulder of a ball, and send it rolling home.
Fourth and finally, don't hate. Do not hate. Don't hate yourself or others, because hate is just going to keep reminding you of the why you hate them, and remind you of the event.
Remember; it isn't your fault. Whatever doesn't kill you can only make you stronger.